Is your ‘mess’ your message? I know mine is…here’s why.

This whole thing about your “mess being your message” has been rolling around in my mind for the last few days…

I couldn’t figure out if my mess was really my message. How did it all fit together? I know that it provided my big reason WHY but how was it really my message…

Here’s the truth and my mess…and ultimately the MESSAGE.

It began over about 15 years ago with a divorce and a 7 year custody battle that wasted a lot of money, hurt a lot of people and created a divide that I really didn’t want. What it provided was a whole load of personal growth, a massive shift in mindset and letting go of the stories (read Byron Katie’s book ‘Loving what is’ to learn more about this) and renewed physical health and vitality with a cleaner diet and approach to well-being.

Next ‘mess’…10 years ago in June…one of my daughter’s died. It is a day that crushed me and liberated me. It provided the basis from which I would re-launch my life. That day, all of the petty shit died too and I decided to only embrace the things that were fun and that made me feel joy. In the darkness, the void, the nothingness, I realized that I had everything I needed and the only thing I needed to do was follow the CALL OF MY SOUL. I knew that the ONLY way to honor my daughter was to begin to LIVE FULLY and teach others to do the same. (That day, I quit my corporate career as a Marketing and Business Strategist and I began to intermix what I been learning about energy and what I already knew about strategic action to start changing lives.)

Fast forward about 5 years or so…I lost my way a little. I got busy DOING LIFE instead of BEING who I knew I needed to be. Two more girls were born and there was an abundance of creation and changing lives but then a disappointing break in a spiritual business venture ended with a lot of money being taken from me. That shift, meant working less and mothering more. I had a deep knowing that working made me a better ‘everything’ (including mother) but I let it slide and the demands of motherhood and family life take over. My relationship started to falter even more and I was becoming a shadow version of the powerful person I had been. I got lost in the busyness of life…and moved away from the call of my soul.

I did see this happening and knew that I needed to make a shift, I talked with those around me about going back to my corporate career but no one seemed to understand why I would add that to my already busy days. I listened to them…not me and I died inside a little more each day…until my body completely broke down…

The last big mess started 3 years ago. I began to get really sick and had very little energy and couldn’t eat without food reactions. After 8 months of doing everything I could to make this better, a panicked emergency room visit with an anaphylactic reaction made me realize that it wasn’t working. I needed to take massive action and found a Functional Medicine Doctor who discovered why I had become so tired, so drained and so sick. I had Stage 3 Adrenal Fatigue (there are only 3 stages…my body was depleted of almost all hormones and significant minerals and vitamins…the homeostasis was completely askew). It has been over 2 years of intense treatment protocol, hundreds of supplements and prescriptions, intense shifts in mindset, creating new neural pathways, daily meditation and yoga, strict sleep schedules and deep personal growth and emotional processing to regain my health and my life. The result: I know more about who I am than I ever have before. I discovered what I truly want and reaffirmed what my purpose is.

So, there are ALL THE MESSES.

Now onto the summary of the message…listen, REALLY LISTEN to the call of your soul. You know what YOU need for you. This is YOUR life (even if you have a partner, kids, family, etc) you DECIDE for you. Don’t let others decide for you.

So, in the end all of the messes truly have CREATED MY MESSAGE. It is simple and powerfully…

DO YOU

The message of DO YOU comes from my experiences and not listening to the call of my soul. Don’t be me. You don’t need these messes for you to figure out your purpose, shift your mindset and take action to LIVE FULLY each day; to create the life and business that you TRULY WANT.

Will there always been a variety of messes (some big and some small) in your life? HELL YES. They provide the opportunity for expansion and growth.

Be sure to learn from them, apply them to your life and live more POWERFULLY because of them. If you do this, you won’t need to repeat the MESS again. Remember: the mess keeps appearing in a variety of ways until you learn the lesson.

They help create who you are and REVEAL WHO YOU ARE MEANT TO BE.

What’s your mess and your message? I recommend that you write them down. Start with the details of the ‘mess’ and then write what you learned about yourself and how you have applied it to your life. You will receive valuable insight in this process that will radically shift your life and your business if you take time to do it.

What do you have to share with the world based on your experiences?

How will SHARE it?

I would love to hear about your mess and most importantly your MESSAGE. Email me at jill@jillethier.com